Have you spent time justifying the existence of your dislikes?
For instance, someone treats you without courtesy in the work environment, do you find a way to rationalize that behavior? Rationalize your dislike of that behavior? Do you say, “that’s ok, he/she must be having a bad day?”
I do that. I try to see things from a whole perspective.
Yet, I realize, that does not mean I have to accept such behavior.
I do not have to give my time unlimited to anyone that asks or demands.
It is ok to not answer my phone.
It is ok to not be available for every call that comes in regardless of what I may be doing.
It is ok to need time to find an answer or to arrive at the fact that I may not have a suitable response.
I can choose what to do with my “present moments”, rather than allowing perceived external forces allegedly decide for me.
I can whoop and holler with liberation, liberation of self, not because I don’t want to be kind or giving, but because it is essential to be kind and giving to ourselves also and not to sacrifice self for others at high costs.
It is ok to define our world and to determine what we will accept within our moments.
It is ok to realize that we are all individuals and that we are allowed to be individuals, along our own defining path, while allowing time for others. Helping others, being available for others though should never mean sacrificing our passions and our beliefs.
There is no reason we should not allow ourselves the power to be.
Have a blessed New Year.